@Truthordeal: Purgatory is my favorite realm. XD
Feel free to vent, Saj, looks like your insights may be helpful. I'd also like to offer my perspective, though.
Agreed, spiritual abuse and "Hell talk" is a bad thing, especially when enforced by a specific culture, and it's even worse when people fail to collect the proper implications of such ideas. However, where I come from, this isn't much of "spiritual abuse", rather "spiritual enlightenment". The reason why I say this is because there's no one to force you what path you ought to follow (unless you're family's psychotic), and it is the individual's own responsibility to establish right from wrong.
The Hindu / Urdu terms for Hell is "Narak" and I still haven't figured if the term was native to Dharmic or it was borrowed from Islamic. However, the term signifies the same as the Christian term of Hell, though it implies more than after-life penalty.
Anybody familiar with the saying "What goes around comes around"? One of it's standard implications is that the world runs the way you do, aka if you're nice to your boss then your subordinates will likely be more nice to you, and if you help someone then perhaps some day you'll also receive that help. The idea is detailed, though I think I realize the depth of it's significance in an empathetic society, and it is also deeply structured in the concept of "Narak". One of the key symbols of this idea is "Paap ka Ghada" (i.e., the Cauldron of Sins), where a certain amount of sin is forgiven if it can be atoned (such as pilfering a dollar, badmouthing, etc.) but when the cauldron is full with the gravest of sins (such as unjust murder, etc.) then you begin to see to see signs haunting you, and lest you atone for your sins and lessen the burden in that cauldron, you'll suffer eternal damnation.
Personally, I think, such an idea is beautiful to look at because it gives you a chance to atone for your follies and be a better person, all without the intervention of Religion (despite it being the source of the influence). The "scare factor" isn't just the after-life, but it does imply that one would be penalized even when alive (there's a quote saying that the sinner dies a several deaths before ceasing to exist). But the "Narak" concept has no such thing that you have to be religious if you want to reach heaven; even the non-believers go to heaven if they are good, but those who wrong others are merely filling their cauldron of sins and begging damnation. And it's true too: insecurity rises mostly to those who do wrong (drug cartels, traffickers, assassins, terrorists, etc.), because whether they acknowledge it or not their deeds haunt them every step of their way.
In India, even the Jews and Christians have broadened their views on "Hell" and therefore we don't have much spiritual abuse here. I'm a non-believer, but many priests called me a "blessed child". If only the other places opened their minds a little. =/
EDIT: I'm also a big fan of Krishna rather than Jesus. While "Accepting Krishna" is a part of the plan, the guy focuses more on teaching how to be a better individual, and constantly implies that a blind follower is blind nonetheless. Meaning? He's in his SoY!