I will have to decline Thought's thoughtful olive branch of reconciliation. For me, "discrimination" and "oppression" are not the same thing, and both are evidently present in our society. There seems to be general agreement on the former point. As for oppression, consider some of the variables that probably should be present in order for the condition of oppression to apply:
- The discrimination must extend to a society's institutions. (Check: Women are underrepresented in large swaths of society, especially the highest-paying and most professional sectors--and are outright prohibited in some cases--and are also overrepresented in other areas, such as in menial factory labor and clerical jobs, in ways that cannot be explained by their physiology.)
- The discrimination must permeate a society's cultures. (Check: Women are treated completely differently from men, especially in pop culture, but all throughout the avenues of our society as well. They are judged by different standards and they are held to different expectations.)
- The discrimination must create economic barriers. (Check: Women make less money than men for equal work, and are hired and fired more often on the basis of irrelevant factors often pertaining to their personality and looks.)
- The discrimination must create intellectual and artistic barriers. (Check: Women are routinely conditioned from a young age to develop a certain way and adhere to the gender roles laid out for them, greatly skewing their intellectual and artistic development.)
- The discrimination must feature prominently in the lives of many of those in group in question. (Check: Women routinely have to spend time and energy worrying about their looks in ways that men do not; worrying about the "balance" between family and career in ways that men do not; and so forth.)
- The discrimination must threaten their physical safety. (Check: A significant minority of all women will have been raped in their lifetimes, and the majority of women have been sexually abused or harassed at a level lower than rape. Domestic abuse rates are higher against women than they are men, and the abuse is more severe.)
- The discrimination must interfere with, or infringe upon, the civil liberties and human rights of the group in question. (Check: Even today, we're still treating women as if they should not be "allowed" to control their own bodies, or judging them negatively for it even when they make the "wrong" choice for themselves.)
- The discrimination must hinder relations between the group in question and society at large--or, in the case of women, between women and men. (Check: Men routinely do not take women seriously. They behave dismissively toward a women's expertise. They disregard women's opinions and counsel. They refuse to accept the authority of women when placed in junior positions, or accept the authority but resent it for no good reason. Many men have grown up to believe they are inherently superior, and as adults they act as if it were true.)
- The oppression must create a level of social ignorance in which the group in question largely does not even recognize that it is oppressed. (Check, a sad and miserable check.)
Not all of these qualifications must be met in order for oppression to exist, and yet in this case
every single one of them is met. Women are oppressed in this country, Truthordeal, and your denigration of the term "social justice" sets you up as a fool at best and a bigot at worst. Your ignorant denial is an ugly thing to behold for someone like me who has worked far more in-depth in this issue than you ever have--and ever will. Just because women are not literally tied up in chains does not mean that they are not still oppressed. Every time a woman is treated differently because she's a woman, that's discrimination. Every time a woman is
held back because of the different treatment, that's oppression. And when it's not just one woman, but millions, then it ceases to be a problem of misbehaving individuals, and becomes the failure of an entire society.
You really need to stop, right now, Truthordeal, and grapple with the implications of the possibility that I am correct and you are mistaken. Because if it's the other around, you have nothing to lose by abiding the work of people like me, as I am not advocating that men be tied up either. The only thing I am advocating is that people not be treated differently based on their sex (except where human anatomy directly applies, such as with health and hygiene). But, if you're wrong, then, by maintaining your current stance, you are--whether you know it or not--choosing to act as an agent of oppression yourself. You are choosing to become a part of the problem.
I've told this to so many people, and they never seem to realize it until years later, if ever, but: It's okay to admit when you don't know something. You don't have to be an expert on everything. In fact, you shouldn't. And there are two things here you don't know: You don't know what you're talking about, and you don't know the consequences that come when you join millions of people like you in denying the existence of these problems which hinder or even ruin countless lives.
There are four kinds of people when it comes to the struggle for sexual equality. There are the ones who work to advance it; there are the ones who do not; there are the ones who work
against it; and there are the ones who do not even know that the struggle exists. Right now you're in camp number three. I suggest you find for yourself a place in one of the adjacent camps, because the company in your camp is pretty damn ugly, and I'd like to think that you're not willing to put up with it.
One last thing: Your talk of "feminazis" is straight out of the right-wing talking points memo. Never more clearly on display is your ignorance of these issues than when you invoke such a phrase. I will tell you this myself, from the horse's mouth: Some others in the sexual equality movement are not so well-intentioned. In their passion to end misogyny, they would take our society in the other direction, to misandry. There never was a movement in human history that didn't have some bad eggs, or some misguided people, or some mooks, or fools, in its ranks.
There are plenty of overbearing, domineering, overreaching people in the sexual equality movement. Some of them are among the aforementioned misandrists. But most of them--I'd daresay the vast majority of them--are well-intentioned, and simply have difficult personalities. Quite honestly, Truthordeal, these are the most important people. They're the first ones to recognize the existence of an injustice, and they're the leaders of the struggle against it. Their personal abrasiveness is soon forgotten by history, but their accomplishments are long remembered.
They are the ones who the word "feminazi" describes, but they are not "feminazis." They are
feminists, and you need to accept that their work inherently entails making most of us uncomfortable from time to time. If it didn't, then they wouldn't be doing their job, because their job is to identify the sexism in our society and advocate change.
Change is seldom easy, because it means people will have to look at the world in a different way. Maybe they'll have to behave differently. And most of them will resent it, make no mistake. People don't like being told that their behaviors or views are in need of improvement. That's only human. But it needs to happen. The people who make it happen are often the most difficult, the most intrusive, the most activist among us. They're the leaders...the movers and shakers. They are the ones whose extremism fights against the invisible extremes of today.
So it is that you use the ugliest word to describe the greatest people.
There are two kinds of people who use the word "feminazi." There is your kind, whose understanding of feminism is a stupid caricature, and then there are the kinds of people who created the word and gave it currency: Those who are themselves misogynists. They're not against misandrists, per se. They're against feminism itself. Oh, they usually say otherwise. But it's a subterfuge: The only kind of "feminist" they're willing to accept is the kind who lived a hundred years ago.
Did you ever stop to think, Truthordeal, that you are probably in favor of women having the right to vote, or having the right to own their own bank accounts, or having the right to accept or refuse or even instigate marriage proposals, or having the right to go to college, or having the right to serve their country in uniform and in political office? With a smattering of individual exceptions, when America began, none of those rights existed. None of them. Many people suffered and died to win each one of those rights. But that's not all: Countless more people opposed them at every step of the way. Why? Because change is hard. Traditionalism is easy. Every generation has its own idea of what society "should" be, and too often there is no concern for justice in these deliberations. People's perspectives are narrow and their wisdom is scant. You, Truthordeal, are not a wise person. You are a product of this society's biases, and you don't even know it. You're a mook. You would believe whatever you were told; if your parents had raised you differently, you would have grown up believing differently. Maybe you should try to think for yourself someday. But in the meantime, take it from me:
How can you be in favor of all the feminist accomplishments we have already made, and yet be against all of the feminist accomplishments we have yet to make? In every age, that's how it goes: People think we've come far enough, perhaps too far...and
every single time they are wrong. The people who opposed feminism a hundred years ago were wrong. You're just as wrong today. Your word "feminazi" is a coarse and offensive cudgel that does not pertain to misandrists but to the leaders of progress itself...the very best people in our cause, the ones who are tackling the biggest and worst citadels of sexism...the stuff that, for change to happen, is going to have to run over a lot of people's toes. "Feminazi"...it's a word that I can't even bring myself to let out of quotation marks, because the whole concept is so ridiculous. In your decision to use it, you align yourself with an ugly group of people, and you open yourself up to being judged along with them. This is especially true now, because for all I know today is the first time anyone has told you this stuff. From this moment on, you're not as ignorant as you were. You've been given the opportunity to grow your mind. I hope you take it.