I think J just doesn't get social cues easily, something similar happened once when Boo lovingly referred to me as an "artfag." I took it as a hilarious complement but he totally thought Boo was trying to be malicious (for once? I mean, it's Boo. Not only are we forum buddies, I don't think he's even capable of being offensive.)
So like I said, welcome back Oblivion, hope you're not scared away. And J, please don't be offended.