And because I LOVE questions, let's revive this thread with another one:
If you were in a relationship with someone in love, were the perfect couple (as in, even if you get into a fight it usually only strengthens your relationship), what would you do / feel if:
1) you didn't love your lover truly, even if they loved you most, and yet you know they deserve to be the happiest person in the world and hence you shower them with all the love you've got, not letting them feel even once that they lack something important?
2) you loved someone truly, and thought they loved you back just as much, only to find out one day that they didn't truly love you and simply made you the happiest person on earth simply because they believed you deserved it?
Ah, but if you didn't love your lover truly....were you ever one half on the perfect couple to begin with?
That's the big dilemma.
The chemistry between the couple is GREAT, even better than those each individual actually loves, but "love is just not there". You have the closest friend, best of faith, reliability, stability, respect, appreciation, rhythm, rapport, passion, thought-syncing, curiosity, loyalty, etc. EVERYTHING that makes for "the perfect true love"... except it isn't love. (Well, at least one of them "truly loves", but the other doesn't, even though that bit doesn't ruin the relationship at all)
This was a great dilemma I had a year ago, although the one who wasn't in love before instead finds himself actually "falling deeply head-first in it" right now (just because the chemistry was great, and the partner was just... "perfect compatibility", if not "perfect" in itself... Well, that, and she managed to fish him up). But I'm still interested to know what everyone's answers or opinions may be to such a question.
Just gives you something to think about. What would you do if you were in either of those positions?